Natural laws of life

One may have heard that the greater one's expectations, the more profound the sense of letdown, but it does not have to be if we know what we want, be prepared to work towards it, with an understanding of the natural laws of life.

Each individual who enters our life serves a purpose, and that purpose will continue to be fulfilled by those who cross our paths now and in the future. Their purpose may be a brief encounter to a long-lasting relationship. Their existence in our lives may have varying degrees of significance.

Each person has a role in our life's story, and their impact cannot be ignored or overlooked. We cannot complete our life's story without the part each of these people played. Each one of them, good or bad, contributes to shaping our experiences and shaping who we are as individuals.

Be it a boyfriend or girlfriend, a crush mate on a two-week holiday on a deserted island. Be it school friends or work colleagues, a teacher or a priest, a neighbour, or a co-passenger on that long hall flight. A helper on the street or a mugger in the alleyway. Each person holds a significant role in our life's journey, a purpose and a timeframe to execute it.

Your relationship with each person is built around their purpose in your life, just as yours is built around the purpose you have to fulfil in theirs.

You are both given the timeframe to fulfil each other’s purpose and play your part in each other's lives. Be it a short or long-term relationship, a temporary relationship that can imprint long-term memories on your mind, or a permanent relationship that lasts forever.

The mistake we make as human beings that leaves us frustrated and disappointed is when we misplace our expectations.

When we confuse each person's purpose in our lives with our interpretations or expectations of the part we want them to play, we invite frustration.

When we try to turn a purposeful temporary relationship into a permanent relationship, frustration is never far away.

Your teacher in grade 8 had a perfect and essential role to play in your life when you were in grade eight, and that is where it's likely to end. Expecting more from that can only lead to frustration.

So is your mentor in Secondary school, but the memories can linger on or be safely packed away in your memory bank. You may learn to develop a trusting relationship that could last for a few months or even a couple of years, and then, it dies a natural death. Not being able to accept that will only result in disappointment.

On the other hand, the relationship may continue naturally if they still have a purpose to play in ‘your’ future. It may turn out to be close friendships that would last till the end of its lifecycle, with each of you yearnings to keep the relationship alive by working at it and nurturing it.

An individual with a clear mind and vision of purpose seizes the opportunity of each relationship in their life. They know when to embrace it and know when to let go.

With a clear vision of their purpose, they know how to recognise who comes to fulfil a purpose in accordance with the plan they had laid down to achieve their goals. The key here is that they have dreams of what they want and clear plans on how they want to achieve their goals.

In other words, they are prepared, and preparation with a clear vision allows you to encounter many opportunities. Still, it empowers you to recognise the specific opportunity to fulfil your goal while you let go of all the other opportunities that may feel good but are not right for you.

Having a clear goal of what we want in life helps us to be prepared. Preparation gives rise to a better vision to recognise and grab the right opportunity when it comes your way. It allows you to recognise when the right person comes into your life. It can wake you up from your fantasy and face reality. It can help you to manage your expectations.

The visionaries do not experience failed relationships; they simply understand when to let go and move on.

We do not plan to experience frustrations, but on most occasions, we consciously work into situations that bring about frustration through the choices we make.

As individuals, it is important to have the insight to understand our purpose in life and identify when the right people enter our lives with gifts that can aid us in fulfilling that purpose.

One of the most crucial aspects of our being is having the bravery to prioritise what is important in our lives and prepare accordingly. It is also essential to understand that finding the appropriate person to support us in fulfilling our purpose is a stroke of luck, but being prepared means being able to recognise the right person at the right time.

May we develop the ability to find our directions in this life journey and be blessed with the wisdom to plan for the unknown.

May we radiate an air of serenity to accept the things we cannot change, have the courage to challenge our fears and take the proper steps to change those things we can change in our lives.

May we recognise and accept the limitations of others and be content with the part each person we encounter came to play in our lives.

And most importantly, may we have the wisdom to know the difference between what we have control over and what we cannot control in all our interactions with every human being that comes into our lives.